It is hard to admit, but I am actually regretting my gastric bypass. I managed to go from 325 down to 250 lbs, but I find myself questioning if it was truly worth the cost. Looking at the sagging skin on my stomach and legs, along with the veins and cellulite, I don’t feel like I’ve become more attractive. Honestly, I feel like I’ve just traded one form of being unappealing for another. I recently tried to be vulnerable and hooked up with someone, but after seeing me without clothes, they blocked me the very next day. Now I’m pouring money into compression gear and anything else to hide the damage. At least when I was heavy, as a gay man, there was a specific community that found me desirable; now, I just feel like a melting candle whenever I’m naked. This feels permanent and like I’ve destroyed my life. My advice to everyone, especially those with kids, is to be careful with nutrition and stay active. Don’t end up like me. It feels like there are no good options once the weight is gained and the damage is done.
I’m a gay man with that same ‘melted candle’ physique. Think about how many people wouldn’t even look our way when we were over 300 pounds. Ultimately, that surgery was for your physical well-being. Surgeons prioritize health metrics over aesthetic ones when deciding on these operations. If we view this as a matter of health rather than vanity, we can treat ourselves with kindness instead of criticism. I know you’re hurting right now, but your sex life isn’t over. One day, you might see that loose skin as a badge of honor from a battle against obesity that you are currently winning.
Is surgical skin removal a possibility for you? I really don’t think this is the end of your intimacy. Unless the guy explicitly said so, you can’t be certain that’s why he blocked you. I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way and struggling with your body image; there are ways to move forward, even if this transition period feels awful.
I want to echo the point about health. Try to focus on your physical sensations rather than your reflection. Do your joints feel better? Is it easier to catch your breath? Is your heart rate lower? Think about the ways your quality of life has improved since losing the weight. I’m not sure how long it’s been, but skin can tighten up over time. Even if it doesn’t, there are procedures to fix it. You haven’t ruined your life. You’ve just started a new chapter focused on your health. Congrats on the progress, and I hope you learn to appreciate your healthier self 
Excess skin is something a surgeon can fix. Death is much harder to resolve. Being obese is far more dangerous than having loose skin. You made the right call by losing the weight.
I’m a woman and I also have that ‘melted’ look. I paid $7k for a tummy tuck, and my insurance is covering my vein removal. I’m hoping for arm and thigh lifts eventually. I don’t love how I look naked, but I definitely feel better overall. We often have a fantasy of what being thin will look like that doesn’t match the reality. My loose skin is just a leftover part of my old self, and I’ve come to accept it.